EULOGIES & OBITUARIES

Eulogies

Speaking at a memorial service is a meaningful way to honor someone’s life. While capturing a person’s essence in just a few minutes can seem daunting, it’s also a valuable step in the grieving process—and a deep privilege.

Here are a few steps to help guide you:

• Gather memories and details. Talk to close friends, family, or colleagues to learn more about the person's life, achievements, personality, and values. Think about their relationships, career, hobbies, and memorable moments.
• Organize your thoughts. Whether you prefer lists, notes, or an outline, start by sketching out what you’d like to say. This structure will help you stay focused when you start writing.
• Write your speech. Unlike casual toasts, eulogies are best written out ahead of time. This allows you to collect your thoughts fully and speak with clarity. If you're reading it at the service, print it in a large, easy-to-read font or space it out for comfort.
• Edit and revisit. After writing the first draft, step away and return to it later with fresh eyes. This gives you a chance to refine your message and ensure it feels authentic.
• Practice speaking. Read your eulogy out loud a few times. Practice in front of a mirror or with someone you trust. The more familiar you are with your words, the more natural and confident you'll feel.
• Include lightness where appropriate. While it’s a solemn occasion, it’s okay to share a light-hearted or humorous memory—if it feels right. A thoughtful, respectful story can help others feel closer to the person being remembered.
• Embrace emotion. It's perfectly natural to get emotional while speaking. If you're worried you may not be able to finish, ask someone you trust to be ready to step in and read for you. And don’t forget to bring water and tissues.

Obituaries

An obituary offers a brief yet meaningful way to reflect on a loved one’s life and inform others about memorial details. Here’s a simplified approach to get started:

Begin with the basics:

• Full name of the deceased (include nickname if relevant)
• Age at the time of passing
• Place and date of passing
• City and state of residence

Include service details:

• Date, time, and location of the service
• Burial or cremation information
• Visitation details, if applicable
• Funeral home overseeing arrangements

Share a short biography:

• Place and date of birth
• Parents’ names
• Schools attended and any degrees earned
• Career or notable work
• Interests, hobbies, and community involvement
• Awards, honors, or special achievements

List family members:

• Surviving relatives (spouse, children, siblings, etc.)
• Predeceased loved ones

Close with optional details:

• Memorial donation information
• A brief thank-you to caregivers, organizations, or individuals who offered support
• Final words or a favorite quote

A simple template can be helpful to get started, but feel free to adjust wording to reflect your loved one’s voice and story.